How to Disconnect From Yourself (Without Noticing You Are) A 3 Part Series. Part 2.

Losing yourself in the thickness of busy and hurry, forgetting who you are and remembering again.

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You are reading Part II of a 3 part series. To read Part I, click here.

You disconnect from yourself by spending your time around company that doesn’t encourage you to thrive.

We are the total sum of the people we surround ourselves with everyday. When we pour water into a bottle, it takes the shape of the bottle. When we pour water into a cup, it takes the shape of a cup. When we pour water into a bowl, it takes the shape of the bowl. When we surround ourselves around company that doesn’t encourage us to thrive, like water, we take the shape of the company we keep.

Jesus said, “Where two or three are gathered in My Name, I am there in their midst.” Jesus was speaking to the Christ consciousness that is within us all— the part of us that exists in union with the Divine. When we surround ourselves with people who attune their attention to seeking the Highest truth, people who participate in live-giving conversations and activities, we experience the fullness that comes from that.

We feel nourished, cared for, safe and secure, and challenged in ways that inspire us to grow.

We feel like we can be who we are.

You get to use your own discernment and choose to be around people who share your same values and if not, who challenge you and encourage you to be and do better.

Who honor your differences and seek it as an opportunity to learn from each other.

Who see you.

Not the surface version of you.

Not the mask of you.

Not your identity or what you do for a living.

Not how many people follow you on social media.

Not your goals or your achievements.

Not what you do but who you be.

They see you.

The real you.

You disconnect from yourself by ignoring your body.

Your body has been your greatest ally from the moment you were born until the day that you die. It heals itself when it gets cut, shivers to warm itself up when it gets cold, it has several ways that it releases toxins so it can keep everything inside of us operational and functional; for women it has the power to produce milk to sustain and grow a whole human being. We are Spirit having a human experience and it is a God given miracle that we can take shape in the form of a body.

And yet, in the race of hurry — we dismiss it.

When your body whispers to you through its discomfort or through its pain, it begs of you to listen. It begs of you to help it to feel better by feeding it nourishing foods that make your liver, intestines, kidneys and internal organs dance. It begs of you to move and to stretch so you can see it to its fullest, mobile and functional potential. Your body is a magical being that takes in sounds, tastes, sees, smells, touches and when you slow down enough, your body feels. It feels everything.

Your body is the vessel through which you experience the world.

Your body remembers everything even when you don’t.

You have a lifelong relationship with your body. When it hurts, nurture it. When it’s hungry, feed it. When it’s heavy, release it. When it’s tight, stretch it. Listen and the relationship you develop with it will serve you more than you ever thought possible.

Your body is your best friend. When it tells you how it feels, listen.

You disconnect from yourself by forcing the outcome

“Never give up”

“No pain, no gain” are the crying anthems of the 21st century.

Whatever you do, keep going.

Keep striving.

Keep pushing yourself.

And when you’re too tired, push yourself harder.

Keep grinding.

Can you feel the pressure?

The pressure that comes from the never-give-up-never-throw-the-towel-in mentality that causes high rates of burn out, anxiety, depression and pushing people to the edge of their own lives. If something is affecting your overall well-being, you’re allowed to give up.

When you quit something that no longer serves you on your path, you are standing up for your well-being and that does not make you weak, it makes you courageous.

So release the game of tug of war.

Release the rope of people, places, things, and work that you’re holding onto that no longer serves you.

Release the identity that you’ve been holding onto just because it paid your bills for so long. Just because it’s what people know you as.

You can let go.

You can stop trying so hard that your adrenal glands are fried.

You can pivot.

You can make a mid-course correction.

You can hit the reset button.

You can start with a completely blank canvas.

You can begin again.

And again. And again. And again.

As many times as you need to.

As many times as you’ll learn the lesson.

Until you become the kind of person that you can be so in love with.

If you’re feeling too far removed from yourself—

if you’re becoming someone who you know you’re not— quit.

Give up.

Put your hands up in the air and surrender.

Stop forcing your life to happen.

Let God lead the way.

There is a big difference between effort and force.

Exhale.

I won’t sugarcoat it and tell you it won’t be hard.

It will be hard.

But you can do hard things and the peace that takes over you when you meet the true You will be worth fighting for.

You disconnect from yourself when you give your attention away freely.

Your mind is the most precious, most valuable real estate you own.

It has the power to create any reality that you tell it.

It believes what you train it to believe.

It believes what society trains it to believe.

When you do not train your attention, when you give it away freely, without discerning, without intention — you are letting every opinion live rent free in your head.

You disconnect from yourself when you scroll first thing in the morning. Before you had a chance to spend time with your own thoughts, dreams and feelings — you are already taking in the opinions and the news of the world.

Sometimes you think you know what you feel and believe but if you’re not careful, the world will tell you what you feel and believe.

You are unconsciously adopting thoughts and beliefs that aren’t even yours and it’s happening faster and faster.

Because accessing millions of minds across the globe with millions of opinions is becoming easier and easier.

When you learn how to train your attention,

you teach your mind what to give attention to.

Imagine going on a 2 week vacation and coming home to a fridge of expired food that you forgot to empty before your trip. Would you eat rotten food? Food that gives your body no nutritional value and will make you sick?

The same can be applied to our minds. You can feed it negative thoughts, violent news and addicting ads or you can feed it with words that soothe your mind, that make you reflect, or content that inspires the greatest parts of you to come alive.

Where we give our attention is how we feed our mind.

Social media platforms pay scientists and behavorial psychologists a lot of money to research and design the platform to make it as addicting as possible so it can win your most valuable asset — your attention.

The longer it can keep your attention, the more profitable they become.

In today’s world, we have to fight to train our attention as much as big corporations are fighting to possess it.

When you learn to train your attention, you can use social media with much more discernment, care and intent.

Stay tuned for Part III.🍵

See you soon,

Sandy